It is a beautiful thing to fall in love and be loved by somebody. You get to know each other and share things with your love. Eventually, when all things are put together and your relationship works, the desire to strengthen the bond becomes inevitable. The dates and going out won’t be enough anymore. You’ll want to share all meals, a bed, and a family name.Here are the things that you should consider before getting married.
“The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.” ~Mother Teresa
Single red string
It is paramount that you are in no way linked or involved with somebody else. What would be the sense of ‘tying the knot’ when you can’t keep yourself from cheating. The ‘red string should only be attached to someone you intend to marry. If you are in a romantic triangle, cut the other string and strengthen the other. Who should you choose? The decision is up to you. What’s important is to grasp the idea of starting a lifetime commitment in a monogamous way. Have one or lose both; you can’t have it both ways.
Marriage is not easy. You have to ensure that you are emotionally prepared for the transition from singlehood to being married.
Ask yourself if you are ready:
- To minimize late-night partying?
- For someone to permanently fill up the space in your bed?
- For the mess to not only be yours but your other half’s as well?
- To share your paycheck?
- Divide your paycheck to pay the bills?
- To cook or prepare a meal?
- Are you emotionally ready to share everything with your other half?
- ARE YOU READY?
Open the closet
Most relationships, short or long term, go through the challenge of surviving of the skeletons in the closet. This is because as we start being with that special person, we tend to put our best foot forward by hiding our dirty little secrets. More often than not, we tend to hide secrets and hope to the heavens that we could ignore them for the rest of the journey. The problem resurfaces when everything is revealed when the chance to confess has already passed.
This creates a crack in marriage, which could lead to mistrust and even divorce. Whatever skeletons you’re hiding in the closet, be brave enough to tell them and expecting two things to happen: they will be accepted or rejected. You better start confessing now.
Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence. ~Erich Fromm
Although people focus on the wedding, including the little things like the giveaways and the big ones like the Venue of the reception, it is the life after that you should best prepare for. Both of you should be financially stable to handle daily lives. Getting married is a serious business in a non-romantic way. Unpreparedness could only lead to arguments and possible irreconcilable differences.
The life after the wedding is the most challenging. Both of you will have roles and you need to have a discussion about this. For instance, who will be catering for the groceries? Who gets to pay the bills?
Okay, marriage isn’t easy alright. It is better to be aware of these things than get yourself into something you might end up regretting. You may find yourself ready, or you may not. These guidelines will make you prepared should that day come.